PLAYER-COACH & COACH-PARENT COMMUNICATION
Parenting and coaching are extremely difficult vocations. By establishing an understanding of each position, we are better able to accept the actions of the other and provide greater benefit to our student-athletes. As parents, when your son/daughter becomes involved in a sport program, you have a right to understand what expectations are placed on your child. This begins with clear communication from the coach of your son’s/daughter’s team.
COMMUNICATION YOU SHOULD EXPECT FROM THE ATHLETIC DEPARTMENT:
COMMUNICATION YOU AND/OR YOUR SON/SON/DAUGHTER SHOULD EXPECT FROM THE ATHLETIC TRAINER:
COMMUNICATION YOU SHOULD EXPECT FROM YOUR SON’S/DAUGHTER’S COACH:
COMMUNICATION COACHES SHOULD EXPECT FROM THE PLAYERS:
As your son/daughter becomes involved in the athletic program at IKE, they will experience some of the most rewarding moments of their life. However, there will be times when he/she will encounter adverse situations that may affect their attitude. Although it is usually not apparent in the moment, adversity can also be a valuable moment or experience in a young person’s life. Research proves that students involved in sports and activities develop traits and characteristics that are considered valuable assets later in life (e.g, time management, dedication, determination, ability to handle adversity, etc.). All students are encouraged to communicate any concerns with their coach.
APPROPRIATE CONCERNS TO DISCUSS WITH THE COACH:
Coaches and administration very much understand that is difficult to accept if a son/daughter is not playing as much as they had hoped. Varsity coaches here at IKE make decisions based on what they believe to be in the best interest for the team and your son/daughter. In many cases, this results in a student-athlete not playing as much as he/she desires. Varsity reserve programs are asked have a philosophy where each student-athlete on the team is awarded adequate and fair playing time.
CONCERNS NOT APPROPRIATE FOR PARENTS TO DISCUSS WITH COACHES:
There may be situations that require a conference between the coach and parent. Communication is crucial and encouraged. It is important that both parties involved have a clear understanding of the other’s positions. When these conferences are necessary, the procedures listed below should be followed to help promote a resolution of the issue or concern.
IF YOU OR YOUR SON/DAUGHTER HAS ANY CONCERNS TO DISCUSS WITH A COACH, THE PROCEDURE LISTED BELOW SHOULD BE FOLLOWED IN THIS ORDER:
THE 24 HOUR RULE
Please do not attempt to confront a coach before or after a contest or practice. These can be emotional times for both the parent, the student-athlete, and the coach. Parents/guardians shall not confront a coach, team member, or official to discuss any “negative” game or practice situation until at least 24 hours has passed from the completion of the game or practice. 24 hours gives the parents as well as the coaches a "cooling off” period and time to think more rational. It’s encouraged you to go to the coach first with any problems, but also ask that you respect the 24 hour rule.
HOW TO APPROACH YOUR ADVISOR OR COACH WITH A PROBLEM
WHAT CAN A PARENT OR COACH DO IF THE MEETING WITH THE COACH DID NOT PROVIDE A SATISFACTORY RESOLUTION?
As you probably are already aware, research indicates a student involved in athletics has a greater chance for success throughout schooling and into adulthood. IKE and the School District of New Berlin strongly support our Athletics & Activities. Many of the character traits required to be a successful student-athlete are exactly those that will promote a rewarding life after high school. We trust the information provided within this document will make both your son’s/daughter’s and your experience with the IKE athletic program a positive one. Thank you for all you do in supporting your child’s involvement, and the New Berlin Eisenhower Athletics & Activities program!